There's been a lot of talk recently about a book written by Amy Chua called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, and you can read an excerpt of it here.

 In response to this blatant abuse of animal attributes, Erika Christasis of CNN decided to take the high road and...no wait; She calls herself a "dolphin mother" and goes on to argue that this style of parenting is more advanced using the longest, most awkward metaphor ever invented.

Well, just so we're clear, though I am not currently a mother, I can firmly state that my totem would be the hamster, due to my tendency to viciously cannibalize my own young.


Anyway, moving on to her argument:

Chua declares that her "tiger" attitude (e.g. Forcing children to excel in specific academic and musical areas through intimidation, insults, and squashing rebellion) is what produces the math whiz or the musical prodigy. And perhaps it is. But does this produce happy, well-adjusted, innovative members of society? In addition, are these children really as perfect and obedient as their parents believe? Is there even an honest, healthy relationship between parent and child?

Most evidence says no, on all accounts.

The creation of flawless student automatons may yield excellent grades, but the society places more value on individuals who are well rounded, have many interests, and have social skills. Sports, creative outlets beyond piano and violin, relationships, sleep, individuality, happiness - all of these aspects of a child's life only serve to enrich it, and in addition promote a lasting relationship with a parent unmarred by bitterness or private rebellion.

In fact, society (including the President of China during his visit to the United States!) has recognized that the next great artist, novelist, or entrepreneur won't be emerging from these Chinese households. Even Ivy Leagues are no longer admitting to as many students who demonstrate robotic perfection - they prefer amazing individuals who were allowed to blossom.

Of course, that doesn't write off Western parenting as perfect or even the best option, but we do live in a melting pot; is it really so impossible to encourage our children to pressure themselves and strive for greatness while still maintaining healthy and active social lives and hobbies?

One of my good friends Raja actually wrote Ms. Chua an email, which is on facebook, and he received an email back! She defended herself by stating that the article I linked earlier wasn't a good depiction of the whole novel. He responded by asking whether she regrets allowing herself to be misrepresented by said article, to which she did not respond. Intriguing!

Anyway! This is definitely open for discussion, and I know people have many differing opinions on this, so let me know what you're thinking!